You Were Made for More Than This
I want you to think about something for a minute. If someone asked you right now to describe who you are, what would you say first?
If the answer is your job title, your role, what you do, or what you’ve built — this letter is for you.
I sat down with Mitch Matthews this week, a success coach and creator of the top 0.5% globally ranked DREAM THINK DO podcast, who spends his days helping executives and entrepreneurs figure out what their next chapter is actually supposed to look like. And within the first few minutes of our conversation, he shared something that stopped me.
He interviewed over 200 people who had created their dream jobs or dream businesses. Seventy percent of them said they had no idea the work they ended up doing even existed when they started their career. They had to find it, or create it, along the way.
Which means the version of your calling that’s waiting for you may be something you can’t fully name yet. And that isn’t a problem. It’s actually the design.
Here’s where most of us get stuck: we try to define the target before we start. We want the job title, the clear path, the blueprint, the proof that this is going to work before we take the first step. And because we can’t see the full picture yet, we wait. We tell ourselves we’ll start when we’re ready, and the timing is right, and we’ve figured out exactly what we’re building. But what God is actually asking of most of us in those seasons isn’t a polished plan. It’s a conversation.
Mitch made a point in our conversation that I haven’t been able to shake. The word “persona” is Latin for mask. And most of us have been wearing one for so long, we don’t realize what it’s costing us to keep it on, across our businesses, our relationships, and our faith. When you can only operate from a title, a role, or a label, you’re operating from a persona. And the gap between who you’re performing and who God actually made you to be is exactly where the exhaustion lives.
So what does it look like to close that gap?
Here’s what I walked away from this conversation thinking about.
1. Stop trying to label what God hasn’t labeled yet.
One of the most freeing things Mitch said was this: don’t force yourself to name a target that doesn’t have a name yet. Instead of asking what you want to become, start by exploring the kinds of things you want to experience, the gifts you’re genuinely good at, and the identity God has already placed in you that isn’t tied to a title. The label will come. Chasing it before you’ve done the identity work is how you end up building a life that looks perfect on paper and suffocates you in real life.
2. Give yourself permission to come to God before you have it figured out.
Mitch referenced a story from Mark 9 where a parent brings a sick child to Jesus and says, “I believe you can, and help me with where I don’t.” And Jesus says, “I can work with that,” and heals the child. That picture matters. God isn’t waiting for you to show up with 100% clarity and a fully developed strategy. He’s waiting for you to show up at all. The conversation with Him doesn’t have to be polished. Real is all He’s ever asked for.
3. Start building without burning down what you already have.
Mitch shared the story of Danielle, a college professor and a believer who felt called to coach and speak but loved her classroom. She didn’t quit her job or blow up her life. She gave herself permission to experiment on the side, built something efficiently and intentionally, and over time, her entire world shifted in ways she never anticipated. Her kids got front-row seats to watching their mother build something real. That’s the picture. You don’t have to destroy what exists to step into what’s next.
Scripture for the Soul
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” — John 10:10
Most of us have been living on the safe side of this verse — grateful, faithful, and half the size of what God actually had in mind. The fullness Jesus is talking about here isn’t reserved for someone else. It’s the promise He made specifically to you, for the life He already designed you to live.
Points to Ponder
- What would you start building if you gave yourself permission to not have all the answers yet?
- Where in your life are you waiting for a label or a blueprint before you’ll take the first step?
- What is the conversation you’ve been avoiding having with God because you don’t feel ready to show up without a plan?
If any of this stirred something in you, the I Am Enough Identity Reset is the best place to begin. Ten minutes to identify the lie you’ve been believing, come back to truth, and remember who you are and whose you are before all the labeling and performing and striving started telling you otherwise.
Download your free 10-minute identity reset here
This week on The Confident Woman Podcast
E374: Giving Yourself Permission to Dream Bigger with Mitch Matthews
This conversation went places I wasn’t expecting. Mitch shares what 200+ interviews about dream jobs actually revealed, the moment he discovered his identity as an encourager of encouragers, and why a real, unpolished conversation with God is the one thing that changes everything.
What you’ll hear:
- Why 70% of people end up creating work that didn’t even exist when they started their career
- How to build your next chapter without burning down what you’ve already built
- Why the persona you’ve been wearing is costing you more than you realize
→ Listen to the full episode here
So, tell me.
Is there a dream or a calling you’ve been sitting on because you’re waiting to have it all figured out first? I’d love to hear about it. Just hit reply.
XO,
P.S. If you know a woman who is sitting on a God-given idea and waiting for the perfect moment to move — would you forward this her way? The perfect moment isn’t coming, but the permission already has.
Whenever you’re ready, here’s where to go next:
I Am Enough: The Identity Reset — For the woman who feels lost, exhausted, disconnected, or unsure of who she is anymore. Ten minutes to pause, name what you’ve been believing, and come back to what’s actually true. Start your reset
The Confidence Reset — For the woman who has been surviving too long without space to reset. A guided experience to help her move out of burnout and emotional depletion so she can rebuild confidence, regain clarity, and reconnect with the woman she is becoming. Get instant access
I Am Becoming — For the woman who knows this is deeper than one hard season. A faith-led, soul-paced journey into who she is becoming. Weekly devotionals, audio reflections, and journal prompts delivered straight to your inbox. No logins. No pressure. Just you, God, and the truth of who you were always meant to be. Learn more
The Becoming — For the woman who is ready to go all the way in. The deeper work. The full integration of identity, confidence, healing, and alignment into the life she is actually living. When you’re ready, this is where it goes next. Start your journey